Vanessa
Chicago, IL | 46 | @v_vidorra
Social Worker. World Traveler. Unapologetic Bon Vivant.
Vanessa is the kind of woman who carries both wisdom and wanderlust in her stride. Born and raised in Chicago, this second-generation Puerto Rican and Guatemalan powerhouse has spent decades balancing devotion and independence — all with a glint of wit and a deep love for humanity. “I’m a true city girl,” she says. “Raised in the concrete jungle, but always evolving.”
By day, Vanessa is a high school social worker and healer — helping students navigate trauma, crisis, and emotional imbalance with empathy and brilliance. “It’s not always easy work,” she admits. “But my students? They’re resilient. They challenge me to grow. They give me hope.” Despite dealing with life’s toughest moments, Vanessa is grounded in humor. “Laughter is medicine,” she insists. “And I prescribe it often.”
At 46, with adult twins now carving their own paths, Vanessa is embracing a chapter of possibility — where her ideal partnership is less about convention and more about connection, adventure, and emotional maturity. “I’ve already raised a man,” she quips. “Now I want one who knows who he is and who doesn’t flinch when I shine.”
Quick Takes with Vanessa
Your non-negotiables in love?
Respect and loyalty. "If those are missing, we have no foundation."
What does partnership mean to you right now?
"Balance. Romance. Mentorship. I’m ready for someone who lets me soften. I’ve been the boss for so long — it’s time someone else took the reins once in a while."
Love language?
All of them, she laughs — but especially Quality Time and Gifts. "Plan the trip, show up with intention, and celebrate the little things. That’s romance."
Most misunderstood thing about you?
"People think I’m conceited or standoffish. But I’m just observant — and cautious. Once you get to know me? I’m down-to-earth and ride-or-die."
What do you bring to a relationship?
"I bring joy, insight, a taste for good food, and a passport that’s always ready. I’m a great partner and I know my worth."
What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?
"That I’m the go-to person. The one friends and family turn to. That’s powerful."
When do you feel most magnetic?
"Dressed for a night out, in a room full of energy, being exactly who I am."
Biggest personal work right now?
"Self-compassion. I’ve spent years pouring into others. Now it’s time to pour into me."
Biggest influence on your view of love?
"My father. A true gentleman, a renaissance man. His love is generous, loyal, and full of grace."
Signature mood?
”Anything by Sade. Smooth, soulful, powerful.”
Go-to form of self-care?
"Facials, massages, movement, and disappearing into a book."
Ultimate romantic gesture?
"Plan the trip. Take the stress off me. Whether it’s a staycation or Spain, travel is my love language."
Dream destination?
"Spain stole my heart. I need to return and see it fully — maybe with someone special by my side."
WHAT SHE’S LOOKING FOR
Preferred Partner Age: 35–58
Location: Chicago
Relationship Goals: Long-term partnership
Dealmakers: Witty and quick with banter, sports-savvy (football, basketball, baseball), family-oriented, and maintains friendships outside the relationship
VALUES IN A MATCH:
A sharp mind and sense of humor (dry, sarcastic, a little gross—she can handle it)
Expressive love across all the love languages, especially Acts of Service
Confidence in self-care: well-groomed, stylish, and put-together
Great hygiene, kind eyes, nice lips, and hair that gets noticed
Emotionally mature—she’s not looking to play mom
Someone who can keep up with her intellect, her energy, and her standards
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